Women's sexual healthHave you ever heard of a Gordian knot? A Gordian knot refers to a complex problem, insoluble on its own terms. The term comes
from a Greek legend and tries to explain the success of Alexander the Great. I'll elaborate on this in a moment...
Women's sexual health is a hot button topic, and it's also a Gordian knot. Right now leading pharmaceutical companies are desperately trying to capitalize upon the success of sexual enhancement drugs for men, like Viagra and Cialis, by getting approval of a similar enhancement drug for women. No longer just the domain of men, women want help with sexual performance too!
But improving women's sexual health with a drug will not be so simple. In fact, it may never be possible. Because, whereas men simply need help achieving and maintaining an erection during intercourse, there is really no precise definition for female sexual dysfunction.
Our inability to diagnose and solve female sexual problems will haunt women's sexual health, as long as women are looking for a quick fix in the form of a libido enhancing drug. Women's sexual health is affected by pain while having intercourse, problems having an orgasm, trouble with arousal and desire, and a deeply rooted dislike for sex. With this vast array of possible causes, we are left with one undeniable fact: women need to look elsewhere than pharmaceutical companies to address their sexual health.
Do not make the mistake trivializing this topic - human beings are sexual creatures by nature. In fact, after our sense of humor, we are driven by our sense of sexuality more than any other human trait. When women's sexual health suffers from lack of libido or an inability to perform and/or enjoy healthy sexual activity, her mental and physical health and wellness suffers as well. While only you can decide what is a healthy level of sexual activity, we know that falling short of that level has a pervasively negative impact upon your sense of well-being.
A Solution for Improving Women's Sexual Health without Drugs
Luckily for women, we have identified a natural medicine that is so much more powerful than any drug yet created in a laboratory. When you learn to harness this incredible natural medicine's power, you will not only find yourself having more frequent sexual activity, but you will also find yourself capable of high levels of sexual arousal and enjoyment. I am, of course, describing the natural medicine of humor. I have spent the past two decades perfecting a prescription, which will unfailingly unleash humor's over-the-top energy, that I call The Fun Factor.
Once only available to my patients, I was finally persuaded to make my Fun Factor prescription widely available. Since my medical practice focused on patients with chronic, or fatal, diagnosis, I created my prescription out of my patient's sometimes horrific, but always immediate, need for relief. I found that, when used properly, the natural medicine of humor provides a reliable and extremely powerful respite from pain, stress, anxiety, depression, and fear - as well as presenting a superb adjunctive medicine that made my patient's conventional treatments all the more effective (and sometimes superseded their conventional treatments).
The natural medicine of humor has powerful ramifications for improving women's sexual health. Sexual dysfunction is common with a diagnosis of cancer, depression, and chronic pain (three common women's health ailments I treat), so the application of my prescription for improved sexual functioning and enjoyment was a regular occurrence in my medical practice. My patient's feedback helped me forge the three step formula I am sharing with you now; you can rest assured that this formula has worked for many, many women with a wide variety of symptoms and causes.
How to Achieve Optimal Women's Sexual Health
Step One: Go the Extra Smile
My first Fun Commandment has a profound effect on women's sexual health because it is a fabulous introduction to the the natural medicine of humor, in general: Go the Extra Smile. Smiling, as simple as it sounds, is a key to improved sexual appreciation because of its simplicity and almost constant appropriateness. A smile almost never offends and it is completely controllable, regardless of your circumstances; smiling is the easiest way to infuse yourself with the natural medicine of humor!
Smiling enhances your sexuality because it immediately decreases stress and fills you with energy and creativity. The best news about the positive effects of smiling is that these benefits are measurable even if you are wearing a "fake" smile. If you are thinking that lowering your stress level, while simultaneously snowballing your energy level and creativity, will add rocket fuel to your sexuality...you are absolutely correct!
Smiling has multiple benefits for your sexual health and wellness because it turbo-charges both your mood and your physiology. But smiling does another thing that accelerates your sexual satisfaction. It attracts reciprocal attention from your mate because a smile is an open invitation. Think of a smile as a happiness virus and you'll soon realize that your improved sexual health, your reduced stress, and increased energy can be easily shared with your partner.
Step Two: Laugh with Yourself
Another of my Fun Commandments that allows the the natural medicine of humor to soup-up your sexuality is: Laugh with Yourself. Laughing with yourself is the epitome of self-acceptance, not self-denigration as you might've been led to believe. You cannot take yourself too seriously when you're willing to laugh with yourself because you're embodying the philosophy of taking yourself lightly.
Let's face it, we are funny creatures and that's how we're supposed to be! Looked at objectively, our bodies are both fun and funny; the physical act of sex forces us to conjoin in some awkward and, almost, impractical ways. Giving ourselves permission to see the humor in our funny bodies and their functions eases the pressure we place on ourselves to perform sexually and our humor adds further fuel to our commitment to take ourselves less seriously.
Why wouldn't we laugh out of sincere appreciation for our perfect imperfections and the funny physicality of sex? To not see the gentle, and sometimes obvious, humor in these things means we are taking ourselves, and our sexuality, way too seriously. It's really all quite hilarious, in my opinion...we spend so much time, energy, and resources focusing on an act that takes less than 1% of our waking time. If we're not careful this teeny, tiny portion of our day can dominate our culture and our personal thoughts! Not that you don't have some good reasons to think about sex, but give yourself permission to gently laugh at your obsession and you'll find some additional stress released.
Step Three: Let Go Frequently
The last Fun Commandment we'll apply to women's sexual health today is: Let Go Frequently. I always say that in life, as in juggling, success depends on how quickly you are able to let go. Also in life, as in juggling, we all have a tendency to hang on to things too long, even when they are no longer working for us. In this case, hanging on to our harsh expectations creates stress that deflates our sexuality because we are unable to measure up.
Society deluges us with images of youthful sexuality; it's easy to imagine that everyone except us is engaged in passionate, daily sexual activity and we begin to feel that there is something wrong with us when our sex lives don't match the Madison Avenue fantasies. Let go of those images today, because no one except you has the authority or knowledge to decide what your optimal sexual habits and practices should be. Your sexual expectations regarding frequency, sensation, and/or duration are only placing unneeded pressure on yourself and that pressure only creates more stress.
Let go of your expectations of performance too. Many of my patients and clients imagine they must achieve a certain level of sexual performance for their mates to be pleased. Nothing could be further from the truth. When you set expectations regarding outcomes, you set yourself up for failure because you are putting even more pressure on yourself. Let go of the end results; concentrate on the fun, joy, and love inherent in sex because that is where the true pleasure is found.
Let go of sexual frequency and performance expectations, smile, laugh with yourself, and go along with whatever unfolds as a result of your footwork today. If you can do these things you will be a very sexual, passionate creature and sexy in the most important eyes of all - yours! Remember that you are already perfect (perfectly imperfect) and you don't need fixing. Instead of fixing yourself, enjoy your sexual health through the The natural medicine of humor ...relax, smile, and enjoy the ride!
By the way, according to Greek legend, Gordius was a king so grateful to Zeus that he dedicated the wagon responsible for his ascendancy to the powerful god by tying it to the temple of Zeus with an incredibly complex knot. Zeus than proclaimed that anyone who could undo the Gordian knot would rule all of Asia. Many tried, and failed, to untie the Gordian knot until Alexander the Great succeeded - by cutting the knot with a single stroke of his sword!
Create a quick, thorough solution to the apparently insoluble problem of women's sexual health today by using the the natural medicine of humor. Cleave through the Gordian knot of sexual dysfunction, in whatever form it is appearing, by learning to use humor's amazing power - as many women before you have done.
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